Here we go again!
I might as well tell you now, and I might as well just say it outright: I'm pregnant. Again. We've known for a month (along with family and a few close friends), and it's still a bit early to make this public, but what the hey. My pants are already too tight, and it will be obvious to everyone sooner rather than later anyway.
I think the easiest way to write about this might be with some FAQs:
Q: Did you plan this?
A: No way, José.
Q: So this is your third uplanned pregnancy? Haven't you learned anything by now?
A: Give me some slack here. We weren't throwing caution to the wind in any way. I had an IUD! Let me tell you, that "less than 1% failure rate" of IUDs seems much more significant when you fall into that category. Given that this is my third pregnancy in as many years, I think we'll need to resort to surgical means of birth control after this kid makes his/her appearance.
Q: When are you due?
A: According to the ultrasound I had today, December 30. That's the day after my birthday, in fact.
Q: So how are you feeling?
A: Physically? OK. I'm not sick, but most afternoons I feel like I've been hit by a truck and can't move. Otherwise? Well, except for being anxious about having not one, but two kids in grad school, unsure how I'm going to have the physical stamina to get everything done, and feeling generally overwhelmed by everything, I'm doing. Just. Great.
Q: Will you finish your DMA?
A: You bet your sweet ass I will. I was planning on graduating in December of this year anyway, and now I have more of a deadline than ever, eh? My plan is to do my final project/dissertation over the summer, and my exit recital and final defense in the fall.
Q: Will you find out the sex of the baby?
A: Nah. With Daniel I opted not to have the 20-week ultrasound, and unless there's some special reason to have one, I think we'll give it a skip this time around, too.
Q: Names?
A: We have some, but it's too early to tell you!
Before I leave this entry to go crash on the couch, I want to share that Daniel has some kind of eery wisdom only a very young human can have. In the last month, basically since we found out, he's become very interested in my belly. He likes to pat it, hug it, give it raspberries; it's like he knows there's something going on. See?
I think the easiest way to write about this might be with some FAQs:
Q: Did you plan this?
A: No way, José.
Q: So this is your third uplanned pregnancy? Haven't you learned anything by now?
A: Give me some slack here. We weren't throwing caution to the wind in any way. I had an IUD! Let me tell you, that "less than 1% failure rate" of IUDs seems much more significant when you fall into that category. Given that this is my third pregnancy in as many years, I think we'll need to resort to surgical means of birth control after this kid makes his/her appearance.
Q: When are you due?
A: According to the ultrasound I had today, December 30. That's the day after my birthday, in fact.
Q: So how are you feeling?
A: Physically? OK. I'm not sick, but most afternoons I feel like I've been hit by a truck and can't move. Otherwise? Well, except for being anxious about having not one, but two kids in grad school, unsure how I'm going to have the physical stamina to get everything done, and feeling generally overwhelmed by everything, I'm doing. Just. Great.
Q: Will you finish your DMA?
A: You bet your sweet ass I will. I was planning on graduating in December of this year anyway, and now I have more of a deadline than ever, eh? My plan is to do my final project/dissertation over the summer, and my exit recital and final defense in the fall.
Q: Will you find out the sex of the baby?
A: Nah. With Daniel I opted not to have the 20-week ultrasound, and unless there's some special reason to have one, I think we'll give it a skip this time around, too.
Q: Names?
A: We have some, but it's too early to tell you!
Before I leave this entry to go crash on the couch, I want to share that Daniel has some kind of eery wisdom only a very young human can have. In the last month, basically since we found out, he's become very interested in my belly. He likes to pat it, hug it, give it raspberries; it's like he knows there's something going on. See?
Comments
When "surgical birth control" rolls around, remember: this is an EASY one for the guy! *snip-snip!*, a bag of ice, and yer back to work on Monday.
Keep us posted!
I know it's a surprise and all, but still - wow! A new wee baby!
And I really sympathize on the IUD issue - the women in my family are notoriously fecund, and so many of us have been conceived despite the best efforts of our parents. I wish you best of luck in finding a method that sticks after this one! (that's meant fondly and kindly - I just realized that it might come across weird thanks to the internet)
-Chanterelle
And animal, EASY? YOU get it done, then let me know how it goes, mmkay? :)
-Madtown Mama's hubby
all my best to you and your growing family!!
Now don't be discouraged, they aren't exactly harder, either. It's just, well, a different dynamic. So, please, no more "two are better/easier than one". Not better or easier, just different.